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Emotions
Naming with precision
“Stressed”, “fine”, “bad” and “off” are containers, not names. A container tells you that something is happening. A name tells you what it is about — and what it is about tells you what would actually help.
| Container | More precise possibilities | Why the precision matters |
|---|---|---|
| Stressed | rushed · overloaded · unprepared · trapped · responsible for too much · uncertain · behind | Overloaded needs subtraction. Unprepared needs time. Uncertain needs information. Three different actions. |
| Bad | ashamed · guilty · disappointed · lonely · flat · unwell · grieving | Guilt points at a repair. Shame points at self-attack. Loneliness points at contact. |
| Angry | dismissed · blamed unfairly · interrupted · let down · powerless · protective · rushed | Each version implies a different conversation — or none at all. |
| Anxious | exposed · unprepared · waiting · responsible · out of control · physically activated with no threat present | Waiting needs tolerating. Unprepared needs preparing. In practice these are opposites. |
| Fine | tired · numb · avoiding · genuinely settled · too busy to check | “Fine” is the most common way to skip the whole process. |
| Overwhelmed | too many inputs · too many decisions · no recovery time · no clear first step | Three of these are solved by removing something; one is solved by sequencing. |
Naming is not analysis
Precise naming takes about thirty seconds. It is not an investigation into your childhood and it is not an argument with yourself. One word, plus what it is about. If the naming step is taking ten minutes, it has become rumination — stop, and move to a decision about what to do next.
Accepting is not approving
Accepting an emotion is not agreeing with it, approving of it, or resigning to it. It is declining to add a second problem on top of the first.
Most of what people call “an emotional day” is one emotion plus an hour of arguing with it. The argument is optional. The emotion, at that moment, is not.
PMA Emotion Naming Sheet
Eight container words (“stressed”, “fine”, “bad”) unpacked into the precise names that tell you what would actually help, the four channels, and a two-week naming log. (5 pages, PDF)
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